My comment essentially said that I was glad to know the president's answer, and that, as the mom of mixed-race kids, I feel like the President is denying his mixed-race heritage by referring to himself as "black". And a later comment critized me for my statement, pointing out that the president is very open about who he is, and has never denied being mixed race.
I thought about that a lot after I read the response to my comment. At first I was a little offended, because I don't do criticism well, but then I realized that the person was right. I'm projecting my feelings and my life on a situation that doesn't involve me. The President has never claimed to not be mixed-race, he just identifies more with one ethnicity than the other.
And then I had another eye-opening experience last night which really made me think about this even more. Last year we bought Vivian a baby doll- and we found one that is an Asian doll, so it actually looks like her.
And then this year for her birthday, my grandmother went to the store to buy Vivian a baby doll and got the exact same doll, but with blond hair and blue eyes (she didn't know about Vivian's other baby doll). So now Vivian has two almost identical dolls, one Asian and one Caucasian.
And the thing is- I gravitate toward having her play with the Asian baby doll, since it looks like her. Last night I was taking toys out of her crib before bedtime and I actually took out the blond doll and left the other one. Which actually made me stop in my tracks as I realized what I had done. Even though I know, more than anyone else, that Vivian is half-Caucasian, even I think of her as Chinese because that's how she appears on the outside.
It's a weird situation, having a child that not only doesn't look like me, but that looks like she's a completely different race from me. And from her brother as well. People know that Vivian is mixed race (or assume so when they see I'm white) and ask often what her exact ethnic background is, but it's rare that anyone even notices it in Ethan. I think it's going to be interesting to see how the kids identify themselves as they grow up. Hopefully they'll be able to embrace both cultures and ethnicities in a way that works for them and helps each of them be a well-rounded person. And hopefully I can figure out how to help them do this without messing them up too much!
I don't know the point of this post- just stuff I'm thinking about this week. And no, I haven't had my coffee yet this morning, which is why it's a little muddled. :) Seriously though, anyone else think this is about the longest week ever? I need Friday night to show up already...
Oh, and might I add? My kids? Cutest things ever, no matter what race they are :)